Posted by Maria Gola | For Families, For Men, For Women, How to, Recovery

 

You are not your addiction or mistakes

We all have moments when we feel we are not at our best. As human beings, we are prone to stumble, to make mistakes, and to fall short of the expectations we set for ourselves. Remembering that we are also beings of unlimited potential for good can be difficult, but essential to the healing process. Knowing that despite our shortcomings we can still help and be a light to others is important.

While in the process of rising beyond the effects of heavy pornography use, it’s important to remember that our struggles do not define us. An article from Fight The New Drug’s sister publication Fortify Program reminds us that although feelings of shame, hopelessness, and guilt are common, they do not mean that you are broken. You are a fighter and are deserving of real love, support, and happiness.

Too many times in the fight against addiction, we get bogged down with the negativity that always arises when talking about pornography. At this point, we already know about the harmful effects and the dangers, but it seems making the leap from “I made a mistake” to “I am a bad person” is all too common. That we are not our mistakes is important to remember, not just for those who are struggling, but for those who are supporting a loved one through their journey.

Change is a process

The article,“”Here’s Why Those Who Struggle With Porn Aren’t Bad People”” touches on the fact that many of us feel frustrated when our habits don’t change overnight. It offers up three reasons why those who are in the process of healing are not inherently unworthy, and are capable of change.

  • Understanding Shame
  • Feelings are not Truth
  • Don’t Blame the Past, Develop a New One`

Rather than looking back on past missteps, we can find encouragement in looking at where we are today, and how far we’ve come.

You are Not Alone

Sometimes when the light of recovery seems unobtainable, we forget that so many others are battling the darkness alongside us. Your voice, as well as the voices of countless others can lift each other up in support and solidarity. Once you have recognized that pornography has no place in your life, seek out those who can encourage and support you.

Our Favorite Lines

“Many feel like they’re a bad person, worthless, or permanently broken. Not only is this untrue, but these feelings of shame can also cripple people’s self-esteem and stunt their progress into recovery.”

“Feelings are important, but they don’t make anyone who they really are. What you do with them does.”

“Instead of using the past as a hindrance to recovery, focus on today.”

To get more ideas on how to stay positive during your journey, read the whole article here.