Ask any woman who has experienced the pain of an unfaithful spouse or a woman who discovers a husband’s attachment to watching porn and their responses will have a starkly similar message.Hurt and Betrayal.
Using Porn
Let’s be honest here. When we talk about using porn, we mean looking at explicit images with the express intent of being turned on, leading to self-gratification through masturbation. When we seek out pleasure though this means, we are breaking the vow to “forsake all others” we committed to in marriage.
It’s Complicated
But wait, there’s more to it than that, right? Watching a pornographic video is not the same thing as physically cheating on my wife with another woman, is it?Sure, it’s true that different couples have different expectations of each other, different levels of intimacy, and trust. We can agree, though, that when a guy looks at porn with the goal to become aroused, he is turning to someone other than his wife for sexual intimacy.
Reconnecting
Marriage is about so much more than just exclusive sex with one partner. It requires commitment to helping one another fulfill their needs on many levels, including emotional, social, financial, and intellectual. However, if things are out of balance when it comes to sexual needs and commitments, every other aspect of your relationship suffers.Even though using porn may have caused rifts in your relationship, healing, forgiveness, and a recommitment to each other is possible.If you are ready to break free from pornography and heal your marriage, Ever Accountable is here with the support you need.
