Overcoming Shame and Porn: Resources for Guys
“Our hearts and our sexuality have become disconnected. Disassociated. Forsaken. We’ve lost our awe and wonder and innocence toward life, beauty, and sexuality, and exchanged them for a masculinity that is moveable as stone.” – Sam Jolman, author of The Sex Talk You Never Got
“You are responsible
for your own circumstances
and are free to make your own decisions
if you so choose…”
– Steven Luff, LMFT, author of Faith and Sex
“…Our best bet in life is choosing
wonder over control,
awe over self-judgement,
and curiosity over self-hatred.”
– Steven Luff
Real change requires CHOICES + RESOURCES
“What have you done with the
lover within you?
What have you done with his innocence, his sensuality,
and his capacity
to be awed at beauty?
…Your sexuality as a man was meant to drive you
to awe and gratitude.”
– Sam Jolman
What does REAL CHANGE look like?
“In the Wall stage, a choice needs to be made: either remain in a psychological prison, or set ourselves free to live our own lives…
“A basic component of the Wall is isolation.
To break down the Wall, community plays a vital role in real change.” – Steven Luff
More resources for overcoming shame and porn
Community Support Online
Find community support!
Live Free Ministries: Small Groups Online
Is your wife is struggling with feelings of betrayal? Here’s a place to find hope, and healing:
Live Free for Wives
Our Online Resource Center
Educate yourself on the porn recovery journey. Knowledge is power.
Ascend: Online Porn Recovery Course
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